Isabella is now 2 months old. And
finally I think I may have time to sit down and record a bit of
background and the events of her coming into the world.
As most of you know, Sam is a doctor at
the mission hospital here in Lubango, Angola. And although many
babies are born there, and we trust and love the doctors there, the
hospital just doesn't have the equipment and resources it needs to
provide for anything that might go wrong, especially concerning the
baby's aftercare, etc. so when we learned we were going to be
parents, we knew that we would plan on having the baby at a hospital
in Namibia.
In mid October Sam and I made the +/-
16 hour drive (with an overnight partway there) down to Windhoek.
The drive was good – the 30 or 40 kms of off-roading went OK
considering my big watermelon belly, even the border crossing was
fairly straightforward this time and didn't take too long. We spent
some time together in Windhoek until Sam had to return to Angola for
a few weeks, while I waited things out in Namibia. I prayed often
during that time of separation that Isabella would hang in there and
not arrive before he could return. She did, and we were both VERY
grateful, especially considering how things unfolded when she did
decide to make her appearance.
Flash forward to November 18th -
a day after my due date. My best friend, Amber, had flown in to be
with me with the hopes of being there when baby arrived. [It's
helpful to note that, in addition to being my best friend, she is
also a doula (labour coach), a labour and delivery nurse, AND she is
in her final semester of mid-wifery training.] This girl LOVES all
things mother and baby! She had been there for a week and was
nearing the end of her stay – with a return flight on the 20th
November. I think both of us were starting to get nervous that she
might have to leave without greeting our little one. So what did we
do? We went on safari of course. Even though she had been to
Namibia before and her main purpose in coming was baby-related, you
simply can't come to Namibia without doing a game drive! So the
three of us went to Okapuka and climbed up into the back of this
lovely vehicle: (not the easiest thing to do at 9 months
pregnant, I might add!) and we commenced bouncing and bumping and
taking in the wonder that is the Namibian outdoors and wildlife. I
think that both Sam and Amber were secretly hoping the terrain would
get baby moving and yet hoping she wouldn't get moving while actually
ON the game drive.
On our drive back to Okahandja (where
we were staying) we made a stop at Monkey Mountain for a photo op.
Because what else should you be doing at 9 months pregnant, a day
past your due date, and in flip flops and a skirt? Scrambling up and
over rocks! We had not had any maternity photos taken yet and it was
dusk and the Namibian sunset was at it's finest. And it didn't hurt
that Amber also happens to be an amazing amateur photographer. The
Result:
Well,
no baby that night, but I did wake up around 3am with some slight
cramps thinking, “I wonder...” The next morning the cramps were
still there, but no big deal – not even as bad as some menstrual
cramps – and we had plans in the city. We ran errands in Windhoek
and had a nice lunch
– returning to Okahandja in the late afternoon. As we made and ate
dinner I noted that the cramps were getting a little stronger and
decided that my hunch was correct and that we would finally be
meeting our baby girl. We finished dinner around 9:30 and we sat
down to watch sitcoms as a distraction from what I now could
decidedly call “contractions”. I remember thinking that the
pains seemed to be much closer together and more intense than I
imagined they would be at the start of things. I also clearly
remember Amber saying, “on a scale of 1-10 think of these beginning
contractions as like a 1 or 2.” and I remember thinking to
myself, “If that is the case....I am in trouble.” A few more
contractions after hearing this I could no longer be distracted by or
pay any attention to the show were were watching, and I decided to
take a warm shower.
The
flat we were staying in is part of the Christ's Hope International
center. This is the organization that Sam worked for and I
volunteered with when I took my first mission trip to Namibia. It is
where he and I first met. The flat we were staying in has a tub, but
no shower, and the flat where Amber was staying does have a shower,
so I was planning to go use the shower there. As I collected my
things and headed to the door Amber asked, “Do you want me to come
down with you and hang out there, just in case?” Considering how I
was feeling I decided that would be a good idea so we headed
downstairs together. I took a shower and realized that it was rather
difficult to stand up straight during contractions and in my mind I
kept hearing Amber say, “think of these like a 1 or 2....”
I
dried off, got dressed and figured that Amber and I would go back
upstairs...but the contractions seemed to be so close together and I
couldn't imagine trying to walk up the steps. So I just sat there
facing Amber, sort of bowing my head, closing my eyes and trying not
to hold my breath as she encouraged and talked me through
contractions. We talked about, “should head to the hospital?” I
remember her saying it was really up to me, about what I felt
comfortable with – how long to wait before going – because, you
see, we had a 45 minute drive from where we were to where the
hospital was. I remember saying, “I just don't want to go too
early.” for several reasons – 1) if we were too early and they
turned us away, where would we go? 2) if they admitted me, Amber
wouldn't be allowed in and I was really appreciating her
encouragement and knowledge through the contractions. A few more
contractions and I decided that it was time to go to the hospital –
mostly because I was having a hard time imagining what that 45 minute
car ride was going to be like if I waited any longer.
Amber
went upstairs to tell Sam to put the bags in the car. I'm not sure
what time it was at this point – probably after 11 - it had been
maybe an hour, hour and a half since I had come down stairs for the
shower. Amber was gone maybe 5 minutes, and in that time...my water
broke. When she came back and asked how I was I remember tell her,
“I think my water broke” and I remember her asking me where I
wanted to be, if I wanted to change positions, etc....and I said, “I
don't know!” Ha. I just remember feeling like whatever place and
position I was in I didn't want to move. At this point Amber decided
to check my progress and Sam had the car ready and had just come in
the room where I was. Amber checked me and there was a moment –
this was the “I feel like I'm in a movie” moment. I felt like it
got very quiet....as Amber announced, “Uh.... you are complete.
You're having this baby now.” and then the classic line that I
will never forget – she looked at Sam and said, “get towels and
boil some water!” I may have even laughed out loud. I don't know
if I actually did, or just felt like it. It just felt so surreal.
So
Sam was sent off to gather everything needed to deliver a baby –
his baby. He will be the first to tell you that it's a lot easier at
the hospital where they have everything you need lined up for you,
rather than running all over trying to find everything. I vividly
remember Amber telling him they'd need something to clamp and then
cut the cord with. And there was some discussion about sewing thread
and then Sam remembering he had some suture he could use to tie, and
as for cutting the cord, “Well....I have my Leatherman!” Wouldn't
that make for a nice commercial? (in the end they decided on boiling
the scissors instead).
So
with Sam gathering things, Amber kept encouraging and helping me
through the contractions, which I have to mention were way beyond a 1
or 2 at this point! ; ) She asked if I felt the need to push -
which I did – and so it began. Sam did come back at some point
around here and helped. I don't know how many times I pushed, but it
really wasn't many, till Amber said she could see the top of her head
- and she had lots of hair. I pushed again and there she was – all
of her at once! Amber caught her and placed her on my chest. And I
looked into my beautiful baby's eyes. Such a flood of emotions. Sam
tied the cord off with suture thread and cut it with the boiled
kitchen scissors.
Holding
Isabella for the first time was surprisingly so completely normal –
as if this was exactly where she belonged – so natural and at the
same time it was so completely strange – is this really happening??
I was a mix of relief, excitement, love and an immediate sense that
I needed to protect her. I didn't want to stop holding her and
looking at her sweet face.
Logistically
speaking though, I had to. Sam took her and cleaned her up and got
her dressed while I did the same for myself, taking a lot of care to
hold on to things and move slowly, as I had lost/was losing a fair
amount of blood and was feeling pretty light headed. Soon we were
all ready, and we climbed in the truck for that 45 minutes drive to
the hospital. Once there, I waited while Sam got to continue playing
his role in my movie as he walked into the hospital and proclaimed,
“My wife just had a baby. We need a wheelchair.”
Here
is where I'd like to share just how Isabella's birth was so
beautifully orchestrated by God. How His fingerprints were all over
it. Months before making the trip to Namibia for the birth, Sam and
I had been discussing where we would stay during our time there.
Although we planned to stay in Okahandja, I was nervous about how far
away from the hospital we would be. I spent a number of weeks with
my ladies praying about it. And then, somehow I just got a peace
about it and felt that no matter what, God would provide, whatever
happened would be part of His plan, and it would be fine. And it was.
It so was. I couldn't have asked for a better experience.
And
that, dear friends is how our little Isabella made her debut. For
us, life has always been an adventure. And we wouldn't have it any
other way.